You are not going to let the love you have for someone

- distract you from what you deserve.

Jasmin Soee

Jul 10, 2025

I guess my head has been more clouded lately.

For a while, I’ve been proud of leading with clarity — being clear in myself and with others.

But this old situation that reentered my life has left me feeling dizzy for a few weeks.

A lot of fear has come up — and a lot of hope as well.

My focus has been consumed by trying to solve circumstances.

Not a good state to create in.

So, here’s what I’ll do:

I’ll gather only the information from the past few days, sum it up here, and then let it go — and get back to business.
In the sense of: unstucking myself.

I wrote a letter the other day, but chose not to send it by email — simply because it was foggy.

You can read it here if you want to. It’s titled:
“Something about them made you lean in.
Do not search for direction in the fog. Demand clarity.” — Link.

Because I was foggy.

And now, I choose not to be.

Let’s try again.

Lead with love and joy — clarity and intention.

I hope you can find something useful in these notes, videos, music, and so on.

You can call me a softy.
Yes, I’m smiling.

Do not take responsibility that is not yours to take. This insight left me feeling so much lighter:

Yesterday, I had a significant learning experience—an important insight. Do not take responsibility that is not yours to take. Stay in your own lane and focus on creating beauty, safety, love, and joy there.

Do not take on other people's circumstances. Do not try to fix, push, or solve their situations.

I did.

And I weighed too much. In the end, it was not my responsibility to invest in solutions, directions, speed, or finding ways.

We are our own individuals. The responsibility is ours alone, unless we are talking about family, friends, or committed relationships. In that case, I believe we should take responsibility to be there for those we love.

But until then, support them and wish them the best for the future. Their chaos or life circumstances are not ours to fix or worry about.

This insight left me feeling so much lighter.

Matt Gottesman

If you want an aligned life… a life that truly feels like yours… then you’re going to have to trust intuition over society.

Your intuition isn’t noise… it’s navigation. It’s how God gives you direction before the path is visible..

You can choose the life that’s “expected” or you can choose the one that’s yours.

Morning reflection:

I just wondered: once you have had a traumatic relationship, that trauma with that specific person is now stored in the body. What if, during a separation phase, both people have worked on themselves and want to do better again? Now they try to be a couple again. But the body remembers. It feels anxiety and constantly tells you to leave the relationship. Is this “only” a memory stored in the body? Meaning, the body does not speak the truth; it speaks the past. In that case, should you listen? Or should you persist, not listen, and try again—with the intention of rewriting the experience and the trauma into a better history stored in the mind and body?

Lewis Howes

Anxiety is informative.

It is a feeling that alerts us to the need to find solutions, a different path, or even to set new boundaries. If we don’t allow ourselves to feel it, we deny ourselves the opportunity to become more empowered and resilient.

“I am just going to organize myself differently..”

Decide to honor yourself.

You are not willing to play games.

You shouldn’t have to ask for what you deserve; it should be given to you. That said, communication is important. Let’s say you decide to communicate, and nothing happens; you shouldn’t necessarily continue to communicate. Simply change your course and adjust accordingly. Your focus should be where you are valued. Lead with love and joy.

You are not going to let the love you have for someone distract you from what you deserve.

Ilham

You’re allowed to say…

“That doesn’t work for me.”
“I need time to think about this.”
“I’m not available right now.”

You’re not mean.

You’re not selfish.

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Never take something that isn't yours — not even the win in a discussion. That win isn't truly yours if it came at the cost of someone else's truth. In the long run, both of you may have lost.