What Would My Highest Self Do?

A gentle guide to habits, routines, and everyday choices.

Hello you 🤍

It’s Wednesday today, but it feels a bit like Monday to me. Since my daughter and I haven’t felt our best since last week, today is our first day back in everyday life—and I love it.

I really do.

I love our routines. I love what I do every day, and all of the small things that go into it: the habits. Like listening to podcasts on my way to work, grabbing a warm cup of matcha at my favourite place, taking the metro every day—the same route, different people. I find it to be a little adventure. Not to sound too optimistic, if that annoys some of you. Anyway, it doesn’t annoy me, and I’m just feeling so happy and grateful that we’re back in our everyday routines.

I hope you feel well too.

A sentence that stayed with me

Today, I would love to share a sentence with you that really stuck with me.

I was introduced to it by Roxie Nafousi when I went to hear her speak a couple of weeks ago.

It makes everything simpler, and we know right away what the best decision might be once it’s said. At least, that’s how I feel about it.

Here it comes:

What would my highest self do?

The power of small choices

It all comes down to the small things in life.

Again—the routines, the habits.

Are we choosing the matcha or the hot cup of cacao?

I mean, that’s not the worst thing in the world, and I’m totally for allowing ourselves every little treat once in a while. But to me, it’s about balance. I believe that health is found in our inner life and in the balance of what we choose to nourish (or not nourish) our bodies with.

I’m not a doctor or a specialist.

I do struggle with good habits myself, once in a while.

Where habits become magic

We have to practise a habit long enough until it becomes a routine. Then, every choice from that point on becomes easier for us: what we choose to drink or eat, exercise, sleep, social arrangements, and so on.

I believe the magic lies in the habits—in the consistent choices that become our routines.

So when we’re exposed to a choice (which we are 10,000 times every day), a beautiful place to put ourselves is right in the middle of the question:

What would my highest self do?

And then—do that.

Meeting your highest self

But first, let’s have a closer look at our highest self.

Who is she?

Define: Higher Self

Your higher self is the version of you that acts from clarity, self-respect, and long-term care—rather than impulse, fear, or habit.

She chooses what supports her well-being, even when it’s not the easiest or most comfortable option. She’s not perfect, disciplined at all times, or “better” than you are now. She’s simply more intentional.

Your higher self:

• Thinks beyond the moment

• Chooses nourishment over neglect

• Values balance over extremes

• Acts with self-trust and self-kindness

• Makes decisions aligned with who she wants to become

She shows up in the small, everyday choices—what you drink in the morning, how you speak to yourself, when you rest, when you move, what you say yes or no to.

Your higher self isn’t someone you need to become.

She’s someone you practice listening to.

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A simple, everyday example

Yesterday, I went out to buy new makeup and skincare products.

I had completely run out of everything at the same time (typical!!), so I had to go and get some new things. I went to Sephora, picked up some of my favourite products and a few new ones, went home, rearranged my makeup and skincare, and felt really good about it.

Last night, I took extra good care of my skin.

This morning, I made an extra effort with my makeup.

I feel good, and I feel like I’m taking good care of myself.

And that, too, is a habit.

To me, creating these “alters” or habits helps me establish better routines for myself. But it takes awareness and decisiveness.

It takes clarity.

So, I would love to present to you:

• First: an exercise that helps you define your highest self

• Next: a guide on how to implement her into your daily life—through habits that lead to routines

• Lastly: a looping affirmation that helps and supports you in choosing your highest self

Let’s go.

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First: An exercise to define your highest self

Find a quiet moment. No pressure to get this “right.” This is about awareness, not perfection.

Step 1: Meet her in everyday life
Close your eyes and imagine a normal day—not an ideal, unrealistic one.
You wake up, move through your morning, go to work, eat, rest, connect.

Ask yourself:

• How does my highest self start her day?

• How does she treat her body?

• How does she speak to herself when things feel messy or rushed?

Write down whatever comes up. Keep it simple.

Step 2: Observe her choices
Now think about the small decisions she makes consistently:

• What does she choose to drink or eat most days?

• How does she move her body?

• How does she protect her energy and time?

• What does she say no to?

These answers reveal her values.

Step 3: Feel into her state
Your highest self isn’t defined by how she looks—but by how she feels.

Ask:

• How does she feel at the end of the day?

• Calm? Clear? Energised? Grounded?

Write down 3–5 words that describe her inner state.

Step 4: Anchor her in reality
Finish this sentence:

My highest self is someone who chooses __________ on a regular basis.

That sentence becomes your reference point.

You don’t need to become her overnight.
You only need to recognise her—so you can begin choosing like her, one small decision at a time.

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Next: A guide to implementing your highest self into daily life

(through habits that lead to routines)

This isn’t about changing everything at once. Your highest self doesn’t live in big, dramatic shifts—she lives in consistency.

1. Choose one anchor habit
Start with one habit that clearly belongs to your highest self.

Ask:

If I could only change one small thing right now, what would support me the most?

Examples:

• Drinking water before coffee

• Going to bed 20 minutes earlier

• Moving your body gently in the morning

• Preparing a nourishing breakfast

• Taking a few quiet minutes before your day begins

One habit is enough.

2. Attach it to something you already do
Habits stick when they’re connected to existing routines.

For example:

• After brushing your teeth → you drink a glass of water

• While commuting → you listen to something that grounds or inspires you

• After dinner → you prepare for the next morning

This turns effort into flow.

3. Lower the bar—then keep it
Your highest self doesn’t aim for perfection. She aims for repeatability.

If it feels too big, make it smaller:

• 5 minutes instead of 30

• A walk instead of a workout

• One nourishing meal instead of a “perfect” day

Consistency builds trust.

4. Create cues that support her
Your environment matters.

Ask:

• What can I place in my space that makes the higher choice easier?

Examples:

• A water bottle on your desk

• Comfortable clothes ready the night before

• Healthy options visible and within reach

• Your journal or book placed where you’ll see it

Let your space do some of the work for you.

5. Practice the pause
Before a choice—any choice—pause for one breath and ask:

What would my highest self do here?

Then choose the closest possible version of that answer.

Even 70% counts.

6. Let habits become routines
Over time, repetition removes resistance. What once required effort becomes automatic.

That’s when routines form—and life starts to feel lighter, clearer, and more supportive.

Your highest self isn’t built in one decision.
She’s built in the ones you repeat.

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Lastly: A looping affirmation to support choosing your highest self

Read it slowly. Loop it. Let it settle.

I pause.
I choose with care.
I choose what supports me.

I choose nourishment over neglect.
I choose consistency over intensity.
I choose progress over perfection.

When I’m unsure, I return to myself.
When I’m tired, I choose gently.
When I’m tempted, I choose intentionally.

I don’t need to do this perfectly.
I only need to do it consistently.

Each small choice brings me closer
to the version of me I trust.

I pause.
I ask.
What would my highest self do?

And I choose that—again.

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How to use it:

• Read it in the morning to set the tone

• Return to it before a decision

• Loop it silently during your day

• Repeat one line when you feel off track

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A final note

Thank you so much for reading along.

You’re so truly appreciated.

Yes, you are.

Loop it.
Affirm it.

Best,
Jasmin

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